Taking Time

I love date night with my husband!  His parents make sure that we are able to get out once a week if they can.  I think that it is such a need for marriages to have this date night.. it’s so easy to get lost in the work week and the craziness of life that you forget to pursue each other.. you end up becoming roommates rather then lovers.

I love my husband more then anything and never want to hurt him or our children.  And the best way to hurt them both is to stop pursuing him.  Remember back to when you first started to date your husband/wife.. the butterflies when they would touch your hand.. the excitement of maybe getting that kiss.. life around you would just freeze and nothing else would matter because you were with the one you loved.. it is so easy to become entangled with the children, bills, house hold chores, keeping everyone else around you happy.. and when you or your spouse gets home you have nothing left… you are exhausted and just want to rest.. why should you have to be the one pursuing when really if they loved you enough they would show some effort..

I think this comes down to pride..for me anyways.. I know that I expect more from Joshua when in reality I have done nothing towards him.  I expect him to make the first move.  If he shows no effort then why should I.. and right there is the death of the marriage if I let it go..  Its not that I am not attracted to him or don’t want to make out.. my pride literally holds me hostage.. when I let it..

What is holding you back?  What can you do to bring back the romance?  When the kids are in bed change your evening routine.. I believe that routines can smother out the flame.  Don’t let your pride, or what ever it is that holds you back, be the reason you go from lovers to roommates.

Romans 12:10: Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.

United: Tear down the walls